I’ve been reading so many great books lately and figured I should make a section of this blog to talk about them.
Mind you, it’s been awhile since I did a book report, but here we go…
Most love stories start at the very beginning of two people meeting and end at marriage. Very few go on to tackle the realities of what happens after the, “I do.”
The Course of Love focuses on the ever after, which isn’t always so happy. This might sound like a drag and depressing, but it’s the opposite. It’s real, raw and hopeful. Alain De Botton shows the ups and downs of love and relationships, and how two people can make things work even when it isn’t always so pretty.
“We may rage and blame others for their inability to intuit our needs, we may fitfully move from one relationship to another, we may blame an entire sex for its shallowness – until the day we end our quixotic searches and reach a semblance of mature detachment, realizing that the only release from our longing may be to stop demanding a perfect love and noting its many absences at every turn, and instead start to give love away (perhaps to a small person) with oblivious abandon without jealousy calculating the chances of it ever returning.”
The characters Rabih and Kirsten are terrifyingly relatable. Their desires, habits and the way they love is all so familiar. You’ll quickly notice yourself finding pieces of yourself in these characters.
Personally, reading this book led me on a deep internal search to learn more about why I love the way I do, how I hope to be loved and why I act the way I do when I’m loved in a certain way. De Botton makes sense of so many feelings and situations that arise in a relationship that make you say, “what the heck!?”
With Valentine’s Day around the corner, if you’re looking to dive deeper into love in a way that doesn’t make you want to vomit because it’s so mushy, buy The Course of Love immediately. It will break your heart and give you hope in 225 pages. I’ll probably be handing my copy over to Brett soon.
As always, send me book suggestions and if you’ve read this book let me know what you thought.